Solo Dolo Saturday
I honestly can’t remember the last time I went out alone on a weekend. Perhaps sometime last spring? Now that I think about it, I haven’t gone out solo dolo on any night in at least a month or 2. Even on nights when I had planned on it, a friend would hit me up to tag along or I would be too tired. So, it had been a while. Anyway I didn’t want the Snuggie Season to claim another weekend, so I trudged on out.
After not really doing much talking all day, I got off to the predictably slow start. Which is a shame, because there were a lot of girls looking to flirt. And I’m not talking about the small groups of 2 girls. There weren’t any of those choice options. I mean groups of 4 or more. You could feel the desperation. Going out that night, alone on a weekend, felt like a new experience, even though it really wasn’t, and I took longer than I wanted to get going.
When I started opening up things were OK. I was on the dance floor, and I wasn’t getting very far until I stumbled upon a lil blonde who was instantly feeling me. It could have been because of my cute baby face or my ugly cardigan. It’s hard to know for sure because she didn’t say, so I will just have to wear that ugly cardigan more times to see if it helps or hurts. The thing was, she didn’t want to talk, or for me to say anything either, just dance with me. She gave me a “why are you asking me that?” look when I asked for her name. Once I realized that, I remembered Assanova saying something about shutting up and being hot, so I did. Then one of her friends pulled her aside, and said to her in a voice loud enough for me to hear, “but you’re MARRIED!’
I added 2 and 2 together and walked away. But she started to follow me. It was a half-assed follow, but she had “don’t leave me” written all over her face. I wasn’t about to waste my night, so I moved on.
But I must have moved in a circle because sometime later I was back with Lil Blonde. The second time around she was far more agressive as she pressed against me. I was suprised because we were surrounded by all over her friends, and it was a pretty big group. I glanced around and counted 4 couples as I squeezed one of her breasts. She let me touch her wherever I wanted, and I took full advantage. With her ass pressed against me, she grabbed my neck and held me in tight while she moaned. I didn’t care that if it was in full view of her social circle. I figured she just wanted some validation for the night, and it ended soon after.
You’re probably wondering why I went out alone on a Saturday night. VK wasn’t going out this weekend, and Roosh is in Iceland, obviously. I could have hung out with some of my friends, but I chose not to. The reason is very simple. They all prefer venues that I don’t do well in.
The thing is, they prefer these venues even when the admit that their success rate is dismal. “But the girls are hot.” That should be a determining factor, but not if you aren’t getting any play. For me, there’s simply no point in going to a club or bar where I constantly get rejected. Thus I run with a choice group, or say “fuck it” and do it dolo. It’s no biggie. It’s only winter.
i’ve rarely picked up chicks out with buddies. game takes a complete backseat if i’m with my boys. i’ll open for them, but either the logistics are ballz b/c a buddy comes over too early and makes it feel like pick up, or just, i’d rather bullsh** with my buddies. back when i used to go out alone quite a bit, or at least start the night off solo before the crowds hit, i had my best success.
some nights i do just wanna hang though
The Venues that my “natural” buddies go in I just suck and the girls aren’t into me cause I just don’t fit the mold there (blond, white, fratboy ambercombie look etc) I do well in places that are “diverse” but not diverse were it’s “ritzy” but a bit more grown or hood depending on the venue. This has caused conflict cause sometimes someone wants to go to one spot and I don’t want too cause I know no matter what I do getting a number will be a miracle
However I think as a true mack or “Gamesmen” you should be able to work your game in any venue. Just to sharpen the swords go to a place you know you won’t get play. and Practice your ass of you’d be surprised what it does for your skillset
the ideal is great in theory but for the vast majority it’s simply not attainable. every man has to take a realistic look at what he’s doing to see if he’s wasting time or not. Just because the Dos Equis guy and Keith Stone can do it doesn’t mean I can at the moment.
You should still try, like I said you’d be surprised what it does for your skillset.
I use to go out to redneck/country bars @ a college town, as a black guy I stood out like a sore thumb. But the people at those bars surprisingly were cool as hell. I was able to get the ball rolling and had lots of fun in the process.
Once i started going back to my city it made things so much easier cause I was just more comfortable. It’s all about pushing yourself sometimes, whats the point of going the easy route? its the same thing I did when I went out sober for a month. it’s all about the challenge of wanting to improve. Jordan didn’t become the best by just driving to the lane for the easy jumper or dunk. He had to add the fadeway, post moves, defense etc to become the greatest
Just a thought
Ya, I have a problem with friends/venues too.
Went out Friday night with a group of co-workers for someone’s birthday. Funny thing is, my fashion style and body language had everyone come up to me and spit bullshit just to get my attention. One girl said she caught me driving to work once, in which I thought “big fucking deal?” And another jackass who puts social pressure on me like it’s a big deal, when he has absolutely none himself.
Also went out Saturday night with another group. My close friend left us a couple times, giving his girlfriend the option to physically flirt with me. She’s hot, I wanna bang her, but I can’t betray him. Also, another girl with us couldn’t keep her hands off me, but she’s phenominally ugly and crazy.
So honestly, I’m doing bad with this. Should only spend a small frame of time with my friends, then split them to approach girls. Do what I want to do, and not worry about my friends leaving for another spot if I’m in the middle of a set.
it can be a hard choice. i made it a long time ago.
Good friends don’t necessarily make good wingmen. When I go out with my homies we usually split up to do our own thing, and meet up periodically to grab a drink or run some interference if needed. It’s a good way to get some of the benefits or rolling bolo and some of the benefits of being with a group.
This is what I prefer as well.
Props for going out solo thoug, Rook. I do it every once in awhile, but I have yet to get comfortable with the bars/venues in this city. I’m probably just making excuses though.
How much do you drink when you roll out solo? Being broke, my drink of choice for 2010 was Four Lokos. A $2 can pre game would have me straight for the night. But, they took those off the shelves, so now I wind up going out mostly sober. I might grab a drink or two while I’m out, but on weekends drink prices are high and I’m not really trying to break the bank just to get a buzz going….
My only wing has a LTR so I’m usually picking up chicks alone. Recently, I’ve been tempted to try to apocalypse opener, but my balls keep falling off and rolling away at the last second.
yeah my balls fell off with that opener a long time ago and i haven’t looked back.
What are the venues you find you don’t get play at – and where are you going that you do? Living in DC I’m always looking to find good new spots
I’m always looking for new guys to go out with in DC and my game could use some work too. Hit me up next time Rook… going out solo is usually a bust.
“the ideal is great in theory but for the vast majority it’s simply not attainable. every man has to take a realistic look at what he’s doing to see if he’s wasting time or not.”
The idea of wasting time is interesting to me. Some guys who’ve been in the game five, seven, ten years have a different outlook on what is and what isn’t wasted time. I still go to spots particularly Arlington that I know I don’t do as well as in DC but I view it as chance to improve my game and only strengthen for the places I do preform well at. It would be ideal to only spend my time at venues where I score and close all the time but if that was the case I would have moved to the West Coast years ago. No short cuts.